Before a Sparrow can marry

There is a story of King Arthur and his court.  Sir Gwain wanted a Lady.  King Arthur, presented Sir Gwain three women, a young infant, a scrub woman, and a old woman.  He said to Sir Gwain, "When you can serve on of these woman like you could serve one of the ladies of the court, then you deserve one."

LIkewise before a Sparrow should marry and start his own family, I think they should demonstrate this virtue.  He ought to be able ot serve a woman without expectation of any reward.  Then he will be ready to raise a family.  After all how will he care for a wife and family if he can not take care of one woman?

Perhaps Sparrows should be married at the Shrine of Family when it is built.  It would certainly be appropriate.  They then can take there vows there infront of a priest.